Ko tetahi o nga tohu o te tahumaero ko te urupare ki te wa, te wahi, te tangata ranei . He maamaha me te ngaro o te mahara , me te kaha mo te raruraru.
I etahi wa ka whakaatuhia tenei whakama i roto i te karanga mo te whaea me te papa. "Mama, kei hea koe?" "Tane, haere mai!" Ko te tangata e mate ana i te mamae, e hiahia ana ki te aroaro o te matua ki te whakarato i te haumarutanga me te whakatenatena i tetahi waahi kore e mohiotia ana, a kua wareware ia kua mate tana tamaiti i nga tau kua pahure.
(Ahakoa ko taua tautuhinga te whare o te tangata, kaore pea i te mohio ki a ia.)
He aha te huarahi pai hei whakautu i tenei karangatanga? He aha e taea e koe te korero ki te whakatenatena me te whakamarie i te tangata?
E toru nga huarahi hei whakamatautau:
Whakamanahia nga ngakau o te tangata ma te mahi tahi ki a ia, ma te uiui i nga korero me te akiaki ia ia. Ka taea e koe te whakamatautau i tetahi mea penei: "Hi Fran, kei te rapu koe mo tetahi? I rongo ahau ki a koe e tono ana mo tetahi awhina. Ka taea e au te awhina ia koe ki tetahi mea?"
Mena ka ui ia ki hea tana whaea, ka taea e koe te ki atu, "Kaore au i te mohio, kuaore au i kite ia ia i tenei wa." Mena kei te haere tonu a Fran ki tona whaea, ka taea e koe te whakamatau i enei patai: "He aha te ahua o to mama? He pai te tunu? He aha tana kai pai? Ka taea e ia te waiata pai? He mahi kei waho o te kainga? He aha te tae o ona makawe? He aha tana ako ia koe? He aha koe i aroha ai ki a ia? "
I etahi wa, ka whakamahi koe i te whakamana, ka taea te whakamarie i te tangata na runga noa i tana korero mo tona whaea me tana papa e ngaro ana ia.
Ko enei whakamaharatanga e ranea ana hei whakaahuru me te whakatenatena i te tangata. I era wa, ka taea e te whakamana te awhina i te tangata kia tae mai ki te waahi i roto i te whakawhitinga korero e ki ana, "E mohio ana koe, kua ngaro ahau i taku mama, kua mate ia i etahi tau kua pahure."
- Te wehewehenga
Whakaaetia te hiahia o to manawanui, o to hoa aroha ranei, ma te whakatenatena ia ia i tetahi atu huarahi.
Awhina ia ia ki te arotahi ki tetahi mea rereke me te ahuareka. Whakamātauria tenei: "Mama, ka taea e matou te haere haere tahi? Me tika noa atu oku ringa ki te whakamaroke i oku waewae, ka mohio ahau kei a koe ano hoki koe. Ka taea e au te tiki pihikete kia pai ai koe ki waho, e Mama? E koa ana ahau kia taea e au te noho tahi ki a koe. "
I etahi wa, ka whakawhanakehia he waahi e pai ake ana kia pai ake ai, kia pono ai, ahakoa he kino. Hei tauira, mehemea e manukanuka ana to hoa aroha mo tona whaea, papa ranei, ka whakapono kei te mate ratou, i te warearea ranei, ka awhina, mehemea kei te tohe tonu ratou ki o raatau, ki te korero ki a ratau kua mate kua paahitia e te tangata kaore e hiahia ana ki a raatau.
I te nuinga o te tikanga, kaore i te taunakihia tenei huarahi na te mea ka taea e te tangata te timata i te tukanga pouri mo te mate o te matua. Heoi, i roto i taku wheako hauora, kua wa etahi wa i tino whakaratohia ai e ia te awhina mo te tangata e mate ana i te mate, no te mea ka taea e ratou te whakararu i o ratou manukanuka.
Pānuitia atu
Te Whakangungu Whakaaratanga vs. Te Whakahaere Aapiri i roto i te Dementia
Kaupapa:
Alzheimer's Society. Tau korero. Kua tae atu ki te Hanuere 29, 2015. http://forum.alzheimers.org.uk/showthread.php?11456-When-they-talk-of-dead-relatives
Nga Pakiri. Te tiaki i nga tangata me te whakautu. Kua tae atu ki te Hanuere 29, 2015. http://www.strokeassociation.org/idc/groups/stroke-public/@wcm/@hcm/@sta/documents/downloadable/ucm_310595.pdf